Popular culture feeds on our instinct for anger and revenge. How do we deal with perceived ‘injustice’ and feelings of ‘getting even’. The christian message – to forgive runs contrary to the therapeutic suggestions offerred by psychologists. Is letting go one’s anger the best thing to do? Reservation Road takes us through a journey of exploration and evaluation of what we believe in, what we say, what we do and what we feel about perceived injustice.

  1. What is forgiveness?
  2. Why do we forgive?
  3. What does it take to forgive?
  4. Why is it difficult to forgive?
  5. Can a transcendent resolution help us?

The film gets us thinking about the making and breaking of human relationships. WATCH IT!

I found this interesting article on Reservation Road: What Would Ethan Do?: Notes on Revenge

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Rameswaram (2007) is a love story against the background of the struggle and plight of Eelam Tamils who have come to India as refugees because of the civil war in Nothern Srilanka. The film helps us see and feel the suffering (as wellas the aspiration) of Eelam Tamils. This song speaks of hope to a people who have suffered for nearly 3 – 4 decades now.

Cinema can function as a ‘mirror’ or a ‘smokescreen’. It can (dis)engage us from some very important questions.

Rock On (2008) engages us in conversations about identity, meaning, morality, and destiny. I found the song ‘socha hai’ thought provoking. In fact, the song raises worldview questions (interesting).

What is a worldview? A worldview is the set of glasses we wear through which we interpret the whole of life. The basic worldview questions are

  • How did we come into existence? (Origins)
  • Who are we? (Identity) Why are we here? (Meaning)
  • How do we know what is right? (Morality)
  • Where are we going from here? (Destiny)

Socha Hai (in Rock on) raises worldview questions.

Why is the sky blue?/ Why is water wet? /Why is the earth round? / What makes silk soft?/ What makes fire hot? /Why doesn’t two and two make five? /Why are trees vanishing? / Why do we have three seasons? /Why don’t we have two moons? / Why is there war? / Why flows the red? / And borders everywhere? /Ever wondered…Have you? / Ever wondered what’s this all about? / Ever wondered…? / If you haven’t, then do it now /Why do all rivers flow? / What’s light, d’you know? What makes snow fall? / Why do friends keep falling out? / Why do stars fall? / Why is there lightning in clouds? /Ever wondered…have you? / Ever wondered…what’s this all about? / Ever wondered…? /If you haven’t, then do it now /Silence can’t be heard /And the wind can’t be seen / Ever wondered… have you ever? /Why skies are blue? /Why is water wet? / Why is the earth round? /What makes silk soft? / What makes fire hot?/ Why don’t two and two make five? /Why are trees vanishing? / Why are there only three seasons? /Why aren’t there two moons? / Why is there war? /Why flows the red? /Why are borders everywhere? /Ever wondered… / Have you? / Ever wondered… /What’s this all about? /Ever wondered…? /If you haven’t, then do it now

Worldview questions are important.  Ever wondered….!

  • Why… is there something rather than nothing? [ Are we merely products of Time + Matter + Chance]
  • Why…are we living? [ Life! what’s the point?]
  • Why…must we do the right thing? [ Are we merely dancing to our DNA?]
  • Who are we? [ Are we molecules in motion?]
  • Where…. do we go from here? [ Are we heading nowhere?]

The answers we bring to these (simple and yet profound) questions  help interpret life.  Ever wondered…Have you? Ever wondered what’s this all about? Ever wondered…? If you haven’t, then do it now…

Life is God’s greatest gift! Let’s Rock on!

Just watched the film Elizabethtown and found quite some interesting take on success and failure. Here are some quotes to think about and reflect

Some thoughts about Success and Failure

“I am ill-equipt in the philosophies of failure” – Phil DeVoss


” In that moment, I knew success, not greatness, was the only god the world served” – Drew Baylor

“There’s a diffrence between a failure and a fiasco. A failure is merely the absence of success. Any fool can achieve failure. But a fiasco, a fiasco is a disaster of epic propotions. A fiasco is a folk tale told to other’s to make other people feel more alive because it didn’t happen to them.” – Drew Baylor [voiceover]


“So you failed. Alright you really failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You failed. You think I care about that? I do understand. You wanna be really great? Then have the courage to fail big and stick around. Make them wonder why you’re still smiling” – Claire Colburn


” No true fiasco ever began as a quest for mere adequacy. A motto of the British Special Air Force is: ‘Those who risk, win.’ A single green vine shoot is able to grow through cement. The Pacific Northwestern salmon beats itself bloody on it’s quest to travel hundreds of miles upstream against the current, with a single purpose, sex of course, but also… life” –  Drew Baylor:



You have spent more time on the tree than on solid ground

There’s more to you than this obsession

– Tom Fairchild in Sabrina (1995)


Sabrina (1995) is the story of Sabrina Fairchild, the daughter of the Larrabee family chauffeur.The Larrabees are wealthy and own a family business. While she was growing up, Sabrina Fairchild (played by Julia Ormond) spends more time perched in a tree, not just watching the Larrabee family but dreaming of David Larrabee falling in love with her (the crush).

For most of her life Sabrina was invisible behind the branches and spending her life lost in her fantasy. For the Larrabees (most importantly for David), Sabrina is just a daughter of the chauffeur.

As she is heart broken when her dream shatters into a thousand pieces (the crash), Tom Fairchild (her father) tells her (and us): ” You have spent more time on the tree than on solid ground”. How Insightful and perceptive! We follow our dreams, even if they are unrealistic. We are lost in our fantasy and we forget to live. It’s easy to get lost in a fantasy. But, when we come down crashing it hurts and we get broken inside. Tom Fairchild’s words come to us as the voice of truth. We must let go our fantasy and get on in life. There’s more to life than our fantasies. There’s more to us than our obsessions.

Sabrina finds life as she let’s go her fantasy and moves to Paris where she learns precious life-lessons standing on solid ground. Interestingly, the ordinary Sabrina returns to the Larrabee estate as a mature person.


Questions for reflection

1) why is it easy to be lost in the dream world? Why is it difficult to let go our obsessions even if they hurt us?
2) What does it take to realize that there’s more to life than our obsession? Is there value then in our crash-landing experiences?

3) It hurts to let go our obsessions, and more so if we have lived with them for a long time. We look for answers in the familiar and the immediate. Is an escape to somewhere a solution? What do you think Paris did for Sabrina?

4) Tom Fairchild becomes the voice of truth to Sabrina. Truth hurts. When we become the voice of truth, we are often ruthless and we end of truthless. Tom Fairchild is gentle, compassionate and respectful. How do you think this helped Sabrina in her transformation?

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